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09 September 2013 @ 08:41 pm
[sticky post] The commenting culture of my writing space.  
I welcome all of the following types of comments on ANY of my entries:
  • Single or two word comments, e.g. , woo!, yay, yes, no, please, thanks, absolutely, agreed, seconded, so much, no way, etc.
  • "+1" or Facebook style "like".
  • Otherwise brief comments, e.g. single sentences.
  • A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to let me know you read, e.g. a period, an asterisk.
  • A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to express your response, e.g. an exclamation mark or question mark.
  • A comment that is an emoticon(s) to express your response, e.g. \o/, <3, :), :(, :-D, :-P, etc.
  • Long, wordy comments. Rambling is totally okay.
  • Comments and links on related topics.
  • Comments on single links, entities, paragraphs, topics, or words in the entry. I throw out a lot of things each entry, and I don't expect anyone to have to come up with a coherent comment on each and every one of them to comment.
  • Sequential commentary. It's totally okay to comment about one thing as you read it, then another thing in a separate comment, then a third thing after you've chewed on it for a while and feel ready to talk about it.
  • Incoherent comments. It’s all good. I would rather have you here and showing interest,, even if it's just a *flail*, than for you to stay silent because you are afraid or unable to get the perfect comment out.
  • Talking amongst yourselves in the comments is fine. I like creating a place where people get to interact!

I also welcome:

  • Comments on older entries, access-locked or public.
  • Comments on VERY OLD entries, access-locked or public. I have many years of archives.
  • Comments from people who are not subscribed to me.
  • Comments from people who I’ve never met.
  • Comments from people who haven’t talked to me in awhile.
  • Comments from people who’ve never talked to me.
  • I like knowing the provenance of new commenters. If you're new, I'd love to know where you came from and what brought you here.

My great anxiety is that there's nobody out there and I'm shouting into the wind. If you’re feeling like you want to comment with something, feel free to comment with what feels good and comfortable to you, whether that’s leaving a !!! or an essay. If you don't have the spoons for any comment, that's okay, too. No pressure, no obligations.

How I reply to comments:
  • I mostly try to reply to comments.
  • I normally try to reply to comments as soon after they arrive as I can.
  • My comments will probably try to elicit more discussion and longer-form commentary. Part of it is my professional training, part of it is because I like discussions.
  • You are never obligated to reply to a reply, nor to write longer-form than you wish.
  • If you would like a response to a comment, I encourage you to let me know. “I would appreciate a response to this if possible,” etc. is totally fine with me.
  • Absentminded. If I have forgotten to reply to something you want a reply to, a poke is totally okay.

Linking to my entries:
  • If it’s public, it’s fair game.
  • It’s access-locked, ask me.
  • Please do not archive my work without asking me first.
  • If you do link to me elsewhere, it warms my heart if you tell me where you linked, but it's not a requirement.
  • If something I linked or wrote inspired you, it warms my heart if you link me to it. Also not a requirement.

Transformative works:

As of the time of writing this (02013-09-09), the content of my blog is licensed CC-BY-SA (3.0 Unported), which says that if you use my work for something, your work should attribute me (the user name and a link back to my blog is usually sufficient) and your work should also be licensed under a license similar to the Attribution-Sharealike license. The stuff I link to is not governed under this license and may have additional requirements for you to use.

Adding and access:

If you want to add me, go ahead! Please feel encouraged to do so.

I like new subscribers. I also respect access-locks - if something you created is That Awesome, I'll ask for permission before excerpting or posting elsewhere.

I may not add you back - I tend to evaluate based on what's available on your entries page. If you're mostly access only, it may take some comments or a conversation in a third space before I have an idea of whether I want to subscribe. If your journal is a repository for your fiction efforts, I may not add you back, because I do not have near enough time to properly read anyone's fiction as a part of my daily list crawl. I would probably enjoy it, if I had the time.

I don't give access, generally. For one, nearly everything posted is public, so you're not missing out on anything by not having that access. If I do post something under access-lock, it is probably something intensely personal, and so I'd be hand-selecting who I want to see it.

(This idea stolen and modified from [personal profile] trascendenza, who first broached it in their own journal when talking about commenting culture and their own anxieties.)

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Chimöhre: totorotinchen on September 10th, 2013 07:52 am (UTC)
I get you! Lately I often post one "deep" post with feelings and thought and a short one with a "yay" or "wtf" moment... the latter get so much more comments that I sometimes think I set the other one to "private". And it sometimes grates because some of those thoughts are important to me - one starts to wonder "was that TMI?" "am I boring?"
Strange how we feel this and still don't comment on other's posts. The "Like" button on Facebook makes us lazy - and you'd need a multitude of buttons here. From "like", via "hate" to "I can rely" or something.
Silver Adept: Defaultsilveradept on September 10th, 2013 07:30 pm (UTC)
I think there's an unstated idea that deep posts require deep responses, when many of them are written with the want for dinner responses, hugs, or kudos. Maybe by sticking this document up, some of that worry can be alleviated, and people will comment more generally.
lilacstarprint: pic#109556630lilacstarprint on September 10th, 2013 02:08 pm (UTC)
I think we all have those days where we feel like we're just shouting into the wind. when no one comments, it feels like no one cares.
Silver Adept: Defaultsilveradept on September 10th, 2013 07:35 pm (UTC)
Exactly. So by explicitly declaring a low threshold, hopefully there's less of the tumbleweed.
Obstructionist Husband: Cyranosethewayne on September 10th, 2013 04:46 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I know what you mean re: shouting into the wind. So many people have shifted to FB or personal web sites or just vanished from the interwebs altogether that you sometimes expect a tumbleweed to come drifting by. I don't like FB because I haven't seen any demonstrated deep conversations, and my web sites are for other purposes.

Good guidelines.
Silver Adept: Defaultsilveradept on September 10th, 2013 07:38 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the support, and yeah, there's definitely a difference between the sites as to what goes where, which, if I were just seeking people,I might move one place to another. but for the format I enjoy, it sort of has to be here, so I want as many good people as I can get.
Kathryn: Tsutsujitsutsujigirl on September 11th, 2013 09:36 pm (UTC)
I promise that I read everything you write, I've just been lame about commenting lately.
Silver Adept: Defaultsilveradept on September 12th, 2013 12:21 am (UTC)
You also have children, who count as a blanket excuse for not commenting.
Multipartite: Groupsharpsight on September 12th, 2013 11:13 pm (UTC)
N) (We look in occasionally.)
scaleness: shinyuuscaleness on December 16th, 2013 03:41 am (UTC)
I'm still listening! I switched over to LJ since Dreamwidth went fallow; I'm 3rdofjune there. But yes, I am not so good at commenting, but I read all your posts.
Silver Adept: Defaultsilveradept on December 16th, 2013 03:51 am (UTC)
Readership is good. I;m normally listening to the mixes you posted - although only a few minutes at a time in a commute. Thanks for the check-in.